Positively NO!

The problems of the world are there for us to see. Some of us are affected more than others but the daily news brings us all closer to the reality of a generation on a downward spiral. We need a positive thought to offset the negative. And I think I have found it. We need a negative to bring back the positive!

Upon reflection, the answer is in the hands of the females of the world. Yes, I think a lot of what is wrong can be righted by women taking a firm stand with using only one, simple word. The word NO! There is so much of a positive nature that can be accomplished with a negative – a NO.

“The word yes brings trouble, the word no leads to no evil.” Arabic Proverb
The ‘me generation’ could be turned around if there were stronger parents, especially mothers, who would, could, and should say NO more than they do.
Unmarried mothers are at an all-time high. One guess who could have prevented the problem with a heartfelt NO. And where does the ‘positive negativity’ begin? With a mother willing to not only say NO but to give a good example by living with the same rules of life she expects from her children.
The world takes advantage of women because so many women are anxious to be part of the workplace, one of the ‘guys’, They say yes when NO would have taken them along a better path in life.

The fashion moguls dictate scanty outfits, immodesty, and generally ugly fashions. Women must be either brainwashed or afraid to say NO because they go along with the current lack of dress code and self-esteem.
Women want respect yet lower their standards instead of saying NO. Many females bemoan the baring covers of supposedly classy magazines that reveal everything but good taste. Obviously not enough NO’s as they all stay in business. Where would all the popular swimsuit editions be if the stars would object and refuse to pose?

The world doesn’t shape our thoughts, words, and desires. We shape the world either by our active participation or lack of interest in making a change. We can do something and the world changes or we can do nothing and the world will change regardless, but probably not to its betterment.
Why are women calling themselves liberated when they are such slaves to what everyone else thinks and what everyone else does or dictates? Where is the liberation in being the same? We have become such a cookie cutter society. How many times have you seen a chubby woman squeezed into spandex because that is the fashion? What had she done with her liberated right to say NO, and to wear something becoming to her?

Why are so many women forsaking their purity because they are told it doesn’t matter, it is an antiquated notion? The Ten Commandments are pretty old, too. I haven’t heard that God had rewritten them lately. Again, another big NO would save a lot of sin and sorrow.

It is heartbreaking to think of the responsibility we, women have shunned by our silence. Can you imagine the changes in the world if each and every woman on earth began tomorrow with a NO to the sins to which the world wants us to say yes?

“One half the troubles of this life can be traced to saying yes too quick, and not saying no soon enough.” Josh Billings

Barbara M. Barthelette

Modesty, Being Female, and the World

The world exploits women and women welcome the exploitation calling it freedom. The evidence of this shows up in modesty, morals, and manners. There is little modesty left in the world. Tight clothing, sheer clothing, body-bearing clothing and worse. There must be a downward trend in underwear sales as there often isn’t enough clothing on a female to warrant wearing it.

Remember the good, old days when there would be screaming and blushing if someone inadvertently intruded upon your privacy when you were only in your underwear? Now females are wearing the equivalent in public . . . and are applauded for their fashion sense! Exploitation, pure and simple. Do you see men going to such extremes to make a statement about their freedom?

Practicing chastity means you have to find other ways to communicate. When your demeanor and clothing seem to offer one thing, how can you expect the male population to understand that you might not be that kind of a person? Is this liberation? What are you communicating?
The saying that you will be the way you act follows the fashion trends. Are you going to get a first impression of a young woman that she is exceedingly moral when she is exposing much to the world and eliminating the need for imagination in regards to her body? If you are trying to live a moral life then why would you exhibit an expanse of private skin and think you can demand respect?

Females complain, saying men aren’t respectful anymore. When you wrap yourself up (or not!) like a piece of eye candy, do you give men the idea that you would like to attend Mass with them?

If you wear immodest clothing, give doubt to your purity, and try to be one of the crowd by using vulgar language, are you free?

The world revolves around bodily adornment these days. The commercials promote the newest colors in makeup, the trendiest clothing, perfume, powder, etc. And much money is made on the immodesty and immorality aspect. Women think paint, powder and unchasteness will make them free.

And the majority that buy into the concept of ‘being with it’, make the less adventurous ones feel inadequate when they try to practice less uninhibited standards. Not only are they putting themselves into the ‘occasion of sin’ but are trying to bring others to the near occasion of sin in order to keep a reasonable comfort range in their lifestyle – everyone else is doing it!

Back in the pre-liberation of women days, if a male objected to a female smoking, cursing, or dressing inappropriately, the female would probably change. Today, we don’t want to be ‘dominated’ by males so we really show them – physically, and spiritually . . . and both genders suffer a loss.

Granted, it can be difficult to take a personal stand and dress for modesty not fashion. It is hard to not lean towards the ways of the world in our manners and morals. And speaking normally without using expletives might set you apart from the majority. Being different isn’t the easy path in life. Perhaps you think that given the complexities of adhering to modesty, manners and morals, a little leniency should be in order. Look at Jesus. He was different and truly following Him demands a change in life You get to make a choice.

In the World or Of the World?

The world exploits women and women welcome the exploitation calling it freedom. The evidence of this shows up in modesty, morals, and manners.

There is little modesty left in the world. Tight clothing, sheer clothing, body-bearing clothing and worse. There must be a downward trend in underwear sales as there often isn’t enough clothing on a female to warrant wearing it.

Remember the good, old days when there would be screaming and blushing if someone inadvertently intruded upon your privacy when you were only in your underwear? Now females are wearing the equivalent in public . . . and are applauded for their fashion sense! Exploitation, pure and simple. Do you see men going to such extremes to make a statement about their freedom?

Practicing chastity means you have to find other ways to communicate. When your demeanor and clothing seem to offer one thing, how can you expect the male population to understand that you might not be that kind of a person? Is this liberation? What are you communicating?

The saying that you will be the way you act follows the fashion trends. Are you going to get a first impression of a young woman that she is exceedingly moral when she is exposing much to the world and eliminating the need for imagination in regards to her body? If you are trying to live a moral life then why would you exhibit an expanse of private skin and think you can demand respect?

Females complain, saying men aren’t respectful anymore. When you wrap yourself up (or not!) like a piece of eye candy, do you give men the idea that you would like to attend church with them?

If you wear immodest clothing, give doubt to your purity, and try to be one of the crowd by using vulgar language, are you free?

The world revolves around bodily adornment these days. The commercials promote the newest colors in makeup, the trendiest clothing, perfume, powder, etc. And much money is made on the immodesty and immorality aspect. Women think paint, powder and lack of chasteness will make them free.

And the majority that buy into the concept of ‘being with it’, make the less adventurous ones feel inadequate when they try to practice less uninhibited standards. Not only are they putting themselves into the ‘occasion of sin’ but are trying to bring others to the near occasion of sin in order to keep a reasonable comfort range in their lifestyle – everyone else is doing it!

Back in the pre-liberation of women days, if a male objected to a female smoking, cursing, or dressing inappropriately, the female would probably change. Today, we don’t want to be ‘dominated’ by males so we really show them – physically, and spiritually . . . and both genders suffer a loss.

Granted, it can be difficult to take a personal stand and dress for modesty not fashion. It is hard to not lean towards the ways of the world in our manners and morals. And speaking normally without using expletives might set you apart from the majority. Being different isn’t the easy path in life. Perhaps you think that given the complexities of adhering to modesty, manners and morals, a little leniency should be in order. We don’t want to be different, after all. Look at Jesus. He was different and remember what happened to Him! You have to make a choice.